Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Non Interference in the Lives of Others


It's been a whole year since I began blogging. I'm impressed that I actually stuck with it. Yea! for me!

I remember reading somewhere by some famous author that writes "self help" books, I don't recall who, to have peace of mind it's important to not interfere in other peoples lives.

I have two grown daughters, a son-in-law and some close friends and I found myself voicing my opinion (judgement) about how they could do something they were doing much better, if they would do it my way.

My children did not want my advise and my friends just pushed back. I spent many frustrated hours in my own mind obsessing over this.  I finally realized that this judgment or opinion was coming from MY mind making it real only for myself.  Perception can be a harsh task-master.

Once I embraced my own eternal nature and the eternal nature of everyone else, letting go of interfering with my opinions and judgements became the way for me. Since I am here stumbling through this thing called life, then so is everyone else. No other human has my perception and I have no clue about anyone else's perception.  We really cannot completely know what someone else is thinking.

Since I believe that we are all here to learn and change, then how can I possibly know what anyone else has to do to accomplish their learning and changing.  It's not my job. We are family and freinds to be supportive and that meant to me to be supportive without judgment knowing that the people and situations in their life is for their learning not mine.

Once I finally got it, I understood why the result would be peace of mind.  Focusing on my own learning is a big enough job without taking on my perception of what someone else should or should not do.

Someone else's failure may just become their own personal victory.

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